267 Questions for Couples to Ask That Will Build a Stronger Relationship
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Communication is essential for any relationship, and asking questions and having conversations is a key part of effective communication. By asking questions and having conversations, couples can better understand each other's thoughts, feelings, and perspectives, which can help build trust, respect, and intimacy in the relationship.
The below list of questions for couples will help you stay connected and engage with each other. By taking the time to ask each other these questions and have deeper conversations, couples can keep the relationship fresh and interesting, and prevent boredom or disconnection from setting in.
You’ll discuss new ideas, experiences, and perspectives. You’ll expand your understanding of each other and the world around you, which will help your relationship continue to thrive and grow.
Asking questions and having conversations is an essential part of any healthy and fulfilling relationship. By making an effort to communicate effectively and engage with each other, couples can build stronger, more meaningful connections with one another.
267 Great Questions for Couples to Ask
What makes you feel most alive?
Would you rather be the president of the United States for the rest of your life or a school janitor for the rest of your life?
When was the time when you felt bravest?
What is your secret passion or skill?
What makes the best gifts?
If you could have a button in your life that would do one thing every time when pressed, what would it do?
What is the best purchase you've ever made?
What is the most routine thing that you do?
What is something you can't stand?
What is something you learned from your dad?
What is something you learned from your mom?
Would you let your son play with dolls and your daughter play with soldiers?
What do you need daily for the day to be good?
What personal habit are you proudest of?
What does your me-time look like?
What is needlessly too difficult?
What is worth spending a little extra money for?
What fact did you learn at an embarrassingly late age?
What are you good at cooking?
What was a movie that made you cry, besides the Notebook?
What is a song that made you cry?
If you had to spend $1,000 of your own money right now on possessions, what would you buy?
If someone were to spend an extended amount of time with you, what are three things they would learn?
What is the best gift you've ever received?
If you were paid a $125,000 to write a book in a year, what would you write?
What are you really good at fixing?
For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
If you could call yourself five years ago and had 30 seconds to talk, what would you say?
Do you like hugging or kissing more?
How do you show love? How do you receive love?
Which of your friends is most like you?
How did your family shape who you are?
What’s your favorite thing about yourself?
What’s a new hobby you’d like to try out?
What’s the craziest thing you’ve done in the name of love?
What are three things you think about every day?
If you had a warning label, what would yours say?
What was your first job?
When was the last time you felt really energized or really alive with your work?
If you could set in place an incentive structure to make you better at your job, what would it look like?
If you had one day in which you can't work to make money or talk to people, what would you do?
Are you more practical or creative?
Would you rather be more organized or more adaptable?
How would you rank these three drinks in order of preference: beer, wine, liquor?
Would you rather never have to pick your outfit or never have to do laundry?
What's more important, experience or imagination?
What does romance mean to you?
What is NOT worth buying?
In what way are you most predictable?
What’s the most enjoyable and least enjoyable thing you have to do on a regular basis?
If you were writing an autobiography, what would you call the chapter when our lives intersected?
In what way have you lost the genetic lottery?
What are you working on to improve yourself?
What personal bad habit have you conquered?
Is it better to have an emotionally charged discussion late at night or let it go until morning?
In what way are you not similar to both your mom and your dad?
What's more important, love or truth?
If money were no object, what would you do all day?
If you could be anyone for a week, who would it be?
Who do you love to spend time with and why?
If you asked your partner/mother/best friend what you’re best at doing, what would they say?
What do you feel least insecure about?
What’s pure and simple fun for you?
What behaviors instantly kill a conversation?
What do you miss about your last job?
Which dress or shirt color is your fastest pick for a casual party?
What is the most beautiful place you’ve ever been?
Do you sleep with the sheets tucked in or out?
Which of the Seven Dwarfs is most like you?
If you are in a bad mood, do you prefer to be left alone or have someone to cheer you up?
Is your default to be more inwardly focused or outwardly focused?
What is the largest way people waste money?
What attributes do you love most about your best friend?
If I was bald, would you still love me?
When have you felt most unconditionally loved, and why?
What's the best dining experience you've ever had?
What's the best view you've ever seen?
Would you rather always work by yourself and have free time with other people or always work with other people and have free time by yourself?
What's more interesting, history or technology?
If you were given $1,000,000 after working the next 7 years for minimum wage, would you do it?
What is more interesting to you when you travel, nature or culture?
Would you consider yourself more a dreamer or a doer?
What do you think is the most important lesson you can teach a child?
Are you a naturally jealous person?
Who do you tend to be in social groups, the person who talks most or the person who talks least?
Using one word, how would you describe your family?
What do you do to change the feeling of loneliness?
How would you feel if marriage was changed to 5 year intervals, after 5 years you could opt in again or be done with no messy divorce?
If you could choose one location for your next travel adventure and money is no object, where would you go and why?
Would you rather never use social media sites / apps again or never watch another movie or TV show?
Would you rather live until you are 200 but look like you are 200 the whole time even though you are healthy or look like you are 25 all the way until you die at age 65?
Would you rather get really tipsy from just one sip of alcohol and ridiculously drunk from just one alcoholic drink or never get drunk no matter how much alcohol you drank?
Would you rather never sweat again or never feel cold again?
Would you rather only wear one color each day or have to wear seven colors each day?
How are we different from other couples?
What’s your favorite part of a wedding day?
What’s on your anti-bucket list, the list of things you never want to do again?
What happens in sitcoms, but never in real life?
What’s the biggest thing holding our relationship back from being happier?
What’s one thing we always disagree on but also laugh about?
What’s the best first words of the day you remember me saying to you?
If one of us is a cat and the other is a dog, who would be what and why?
What always makes you feel loved?
When you hear the word "adventure" what comes to mind?
What is the most trivial thing that disturbs your serenity?
Other than a family member, who has been the most important person in your life?
What’s one of the most important things you’ve learned in the last week?
What is your favorite memory of me?
What’s one of your family’s classic stories?
If you could go back and change something in history, what would it be?
What’s the better date: hiking a mountain to a private cabin, dancing with friends at an open bar, watching movies at home while massaging each other?
If you had to outlaw something right now, what would you choose for the betterment of the world?
What always makes you laugh out loud?
If you could neglect one personal hygiene routine (shaving, brushing your teeth, cutting your nails, etc.) without any adverse effect to your image or health, what would you choose?
Would you rather never have to work again or never have to sleep again? (You won’t feel tired or suffer negative health effects)
Would you rather be a famous director or a famous actor?
Would you rather be an amazing painter or a brilliant mathematician?
Would you rather have a castle, palace, or mansion?
What have you dreamed of doing for a long time?
If you had an extra $1,000 to spend, what would you get?
If there’s one thing you could change about how you grew up, what would it be?
What would be the “perfect” day for you?
What quality do you value most in friends?
What is something you never want to do again?
Which celebrity gets on your nerves the most and why?
What is the worst pain you've ever experienced?
Would you rather have free passes to all amusement parks or all concerts?
How are you a good influence? How are you a bad influence?
For what things do you spare no expense?
Would you rather have an unlimited international first class ticket or never have to pay for food at restaurants?
Would you rather live in your great grandparents shoes or great grandchildren’s shoes?
You have the remote, what are you watching?
Would you rather Instagram Live your whole day or be mute all day?
What do you do when you’re stressed?
Who do you hug most often?
If you could do something dangerous just once with no risk what would you do?
What tradition would you most want to pass on to your children?
Has a stranger ever bought you a drink? What's the story?
What possession of your partner's would you like to throw away?
If you spent 9 months of bliss and love with me only to discover I would die in another 9 months, would you stay or go?
What is something new that the person you're with let you experience?
What is your guilty pleasure?
Would you rather be a food critic or a film critic?
How do you blow off steam?
What childhood attribute are you most proud of?
What’s your go-to dinner on a typical weeknight?
What's the story of how you first noticed each other?
If your personality was a store in the mall, which one would it be and why?
If your personality was a musical instrument, which would one would it be and why?
How close are you to your siblings?
What is the chore that you find most frustrating?
What do you do with me that makes you happy?
Without saying reading, what’s one thing that’s always better to do alone?
Is there a difference of meaning between the phrases, “I love you” and “I’m in love with you” when speaking to your S/O
What is the most attractive thing about your date right now?
What do you want to be the very best at?
What's one thing about you that you consider private and you have to be very comfortable with another person to show/say it?
How can you pave the way to self-acceptance and better relationship with others?
Who are you most afraid of in the world?
How long did you date before you had your first kiss?
What's your favorite thing about me?
What always makes you smile?
How many breakups have you had?
What would your ex warn me about?
If you could trade lives with someone who would they be?
Why would you fake being sick on a date night?
Would you rather be beautiful/handsome but stupid or intelligent but ugly?
Would you rather be balding but fit or overweight with a full head of hair?
Would you rather not be able to open any closed doors (locked or unlocked) or not be able to close any open doors?
What do you love most about me?
By default, are you an introvert or an extrovert?
What do you think is the best quality in me, and why does it attract you?
Would you rather cause yourself or everyone else to forget all the bad things that happened in the past?
Would you rather have long lasting comfort or short fierce love?
Were your parents too strict, or not strict enough?
What are you grateful for?
Would you kiss on the first date or wait to kiss in three months?
What do you love most about me?
If you could have a week-long all expenses paid vacation, where would you go and why️?
Why did you decide to start your first relationship?
Why did you break up with your first relationship?
What is one of the cutest things you’ve ever seen?
What are three of your pet peeves?
What do you use more: your mind or your heart?
How do you define true love?
What is the best question you’ve ever asked your parent(s)? What was the answer?
What’s the best place on your body that you love getting massaged besides sexual parts?
When was the last time you cried?
What useless hidden talent do you have?
How would you describe our first date?
If you could go to a book signing and reading at a restaurant by any author alive or dead, who would it be, what would they read and at which restaurant?
What is love?
What is one thing that you love but don't really need?
What is your earliest childhood memory?
If you were on death row what would be your last meal?
What do you fight about most in relationships?
Would you rather my affection be authentic and irregular or inauthentic and regular?
If you were a multi-billionaire, what would you do with your time?
What is something you still would not do for $1 million?
If you had to meet someone from history who would you pick?
What's the first thing that comes to your mind when you hear the word "nature"?
What do you do to relax?
If you had to live in another country, which one would you choose?
If you were on an island, and you could only choose one drink other than water, what would you pick?
What faction of Divergent would you be? (Erudite, Abnegation, Dauntless, Candor, Amity)
If you could be insanely gifted in a school subject, which one would you pick?
What do you do to get happy when you are feeling down?
Finish this sentence: you feel like you are good friends with someone when you can _________.
What do you think about in bed before you fall asleep?
Would you rather have more friends or more time?
If you had to eat at one restaurant for the rest of your life which one would you pick?
What was the last time you were in a car for over five hours?
Would you rather intensify your vision or your emotions?
The tastebuds are: sweet, sour, salty, and bitter. If you had to remove one, which one would you remove?
What would your pillow say if it could talk?
What is the opposite of what you love to do?
What is the worst smell in the world?
Whose life would you like to try for a day?
If you could go back in time, what invention would take credit for?
What is the ideal number of people in a social group?
What is something that you never liked until the moment you tried it and it ended up to be awesome?
What is the most statistically improbable thing that has ever happened to you?
If you could take one invention back in time to improve society, what would it be and why?
What is something for which you will always spare no expense?
What's the first thing to go when you're tired?
If you had $100,000, how would you give it away?
Would you rather read a new book a day or gain a new friend every day?
What are you terrible at, but enjoy enough to keep doing?
What are you old school at?
When you hear the word "interesting" who is the first person that comes to mind?
What is more important to you, gasoline or the Internet?
What website do you visit a lot that most people probably do not visit?
What do you always say "yes" to?
If you could have a lunch with anyone alive today, who would it be?
Would you rather be invincible to extreme heat or extreme cold?
You suddenly become the opposite gender, what do you do first?
What is your life album?
What have you thrown against the wall in anger?
What do you dislike that people do online?
If you had to eat one food group for the rest of your life, but you will always be guaranteed perfect health, which one would you choose?
What is something you wish you knew more about?
Would you rather have all alcohol-containing drinks or caffeine-containing drinks removed from your life?
What is your favorite breakfast food?
What makes you feel most awkward?
What would your pseudonym (fake author name) be?
Would you rather eat whatever and it's always healthy or go without sleep and never be tired?
What brings out your positivity?
What time period would you want to live in?
What job would you take for room and board only?
If you had to write a biography, who would you write it for?
Would you rather have a third arm or eye in the back of your head?
What is the most attractive personality trait in a person to you?
Would you rather improve your vocabulary or your mental math speed?
The president calls you and asks you, "What should I do?" What do you tell him?
What motivates you more: the past, the present, or the future?
What is (was) the worst part about your job?
What is the best quote you've ever heard?
What bothers you that doesn't bother most people?
What brand do you love?
When have you ever had to make sure you were still alive?
What’s your golden rule?
Without saying anything related to food or drink, what is the best way to catch up with someone?
What is something for which you had high expectations, and it exceeded them?
What do you think are the top greatest innovations expected in the next 5 years?
What's your favorite day of the week?
If you had to live in one season for the rest of your life, which one would you choose?